"If more men spoke up before, during, or after incidents of verbal, physical, or sexual abuse by their peers, they would help to create a climate where the abuse of women—emotional, physical, sexual—would be stigmatized and seen as incompatible with male group norms. That is, a man who engaged in such behavior would lose status among his male peers and forfeit the approval of older males.
Ultimately, this would cause a shift in male culture such that some men’s sexist abuse of women and girls would be regarded—by other men—not only as distasteful but as utterly unacceptable. In this new climate, individuals would be strongly discouraged from acting out in abusive ways because of the anticipated negative consequences: loss of respect, friends, and status, and greater likelihood of facing both legal and non-legal sanctions.
In fact, if men’s violence against women truly carried a significant stigma in male culture, it is possible that most incidents of sexist abuse would never happen. This is because contrary to popular myth, the vast majority of boys and men who assault, harass, and bully girls and women are not sociopaths. They are average guys. Many of them see the sexist treatment of women as normal."
— Jackson Katz, Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help
People say “phase” like impermanence means insignificance. Show me a permanent state of the self.
whats the meaning of life? son, its those little tiny pumpkins. the ones that are mad small. you know the ones i mean.
You look like such a great guy, i wish we were friends
Aww, thanks so much. Maybe we can be!
the most unattractive quality to me in other people is constant belittling of what means a lot to others. being contrarian just to be contrarian. people who love to play devil’s advocate. a kind of smugness about everything. an air of being above everyone because you don’t care about anything deeply like the people you mock
Everyone gets so angry when ISIS is slaughtering western journalists, but none of you have a fuck when they were slaughtering Iraqis and Syrians.
"all girls dress the same"
I respect bees more than I respect white men in positions of power
bees make an important contribution to the survival of the human race which makes them the exact opposite of white men in positions of power
"When people say ‘This is my baby,’ they don’t always mean a baby. Sometimes they mean a dog."
it’s disappointing when someone attractive doesn’t care about anything substantial